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Get clear on what you want by doing this

Get clear on what you want by doing this

It’s one of the most necessary steps when venturing off on the journey of personal growth and bringing our dream alive…

And it’s also one of the hardest things for many people to do…

And that is: becoming clear on exactly what it is you want.

If you’ve ever struggled in this area, I encourage you to keep reading…

I was talking to someone earlier this week who was having trouble deciding what exactly it is they want. They were feeling stuck where they were, but they didn’t know what changes they needed to make in their life to get to that place of self-actualization.

But how could they? It’s hard to know what changes need to be made when you don’t have a clear picture of what you’re aiming for… am I wrong?

And if you want to grow as a person, but you don’t understand what areas of your life could use work, how are you supposed to take steps to become a better version of yourself?

My friend, having an aim and being clear on what you want are two very important things.

It’s what propels us to get out of bed in the morning; it’s what moves us to take risks and to find fulfillment in what we do.

And so today I’d like to share a simple but powerful exercise that I recommend to anyone who finds themselves struggling in this area.

If you’re having a hard time pinpointing what it is you want, ask yourself what you don’t want.

And write it down!

After writing a few things down, determine if you see any patterns emerge.

For example, if some of the things you have written down are:

“I don’t want to feel alone,”

“I don’t want to be misunderstood.”

“I don’t want to be poor,”

“I don’t want to feel rejected.”

You might notice this pattern of self-pity, insecurity, and scarcity mindset.

Perhaps you want to work on your self-confidence and your identity, and develop a mindset that says you are, indeed, fully resourced.

That’s the only way you can move forward and aim toward what it is you want.

Does that make sense?

And then to take this a step further and discover what it is you want, just look at the reverse of what you don’t want.

The opposite of loneliness, being misunderstood, poor, and rejected, is having thriving, fruitful relationships with people you love. And it’s living with an abundance of resources.

So through this exercise, you can determine what it is you want by simply listing down what it is you don’t want.

I encourage you to try this out. And let me know how it works for you!