Parenting your parents
I recently sent you an email sharing what it’s like to “become a parent to your parent.”
My mom’s health is currently deteriorating, and I shared with you what it’s been like to support her through this difficult time. Many of you replied to that email.
I want to thank all who responded wishing me and my family well. It really meant the world to me.
Sadly, many of you have shared similar stories of what you’re going through or what you’ve already been through.
I’ve found that what has really served me well, and what has gotten me through these past few weeks, has been the powerful advice of a friend.
She said, “you have to be grateful in the moment for what your mom has.”
What a powerful statement. And one that’s right in line with what I teach.
We have to look above and beyond the current conditions and circumstances and find a place of gratitude in the moment.
It’s not easy to override the comparison game; comparing where she is in her mental state to where she was, or where I wish her to be, but that truly is the only and best option.
... And of course, when isn’t gratitude the perfect answer!?
They say raising kids is hard and no doubt it is, especially in today’s world. Raising parents seems to be equally as hard, but it can be just as rewarding if we can break free from the comparison game and move toward gratitude.
If you’re going through something similar right now, just know that there are people who love and care for you and would want to help, even if it means just listening to what you are going through.
I’m blessed to be part of several wonderful communities where I can find support. I pray you have a community to turn to. If not, head over the Empowered Living Community main page and join in. You’ll find some of the best people on the planet there!
Before I go, I want to leave you with a few action steps that will help you truly build your level of gratitude, and help you become more present.
...Because like I said earlier, that’s really what it’s all about.
Step 1) Find the good and positive in the everyday moments, and harvest it. Even appreciating the smallest of things can make that major shift in your energy.
Step 2) Thank God for the gift of life. Truly, where there is life there is hope. Hope leads to faith. You were blessed with another day of life. Don’t take it for granted.
Step 3) Manage your expectations. Don’t spend time focusing on imagined worst case scenarios. Accept the way things are, and set small goals and areas of focus where you can foster and nurture hope.
I hope these steps will help you on your journey. Just remember that we’re all in this together.